After the Vows


For almost everyone, your wedding day is probably one of the happiest days of your life. The joy one feels when one realizes that the rest of their life will be forever entwined with another, whom they love, is incredible and the fact that so many of ones closest family and friends also feel the same way about it makes things so much more jovial on that one special day. But the sad truth is, we don’t live in a fairy tale and this means things may not always turn out perfect. The fact of the matter is, no matter how long you date someone or live with them, it will never really prepare you to spend an entire lifetime with them.

So what can be done when worst does come to worst? It can be a daunting task to try to hold together a marriage after infidelity, but it is not impossible. Perhaps the one thing which really frees people from pain is to accept the fact that everyone makes mistakes and occasionally, those mistakes are pretty big. Marriage after infidelity is admittedly difficult, but doable. Sometimes you just have to grit your teeth and continue on past the hurt and do your best and hope for the best in your partner, but sometimes, action needs to be taken.

This action need not be divorce, mind you, there are many alternatives to it. For example, you could try christian couples therapy. Christian couples therapy will help people through these situations because it brings in that added and much needed benefit of community if truth be told, quite often marriages disintegrate not because the husband or wife are too hurt to forgive their partner, but because they are worried about what their community will say about them. Actions such as infidelity are not taken very lightly in any community, least of all in Christianity, but there is always help and the best part of that help is that it brings you back into your community and doesn’t make you feel like an outcast. The simple solution to any such problem is to forgive and forget just be your adult self and it will be alright.


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